Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., Ph.D.
Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., Ph.D., focuses his research, writing, and public speaking on three main areas: romantic relationships, self and identity, and the scholarship of teaching and learning (SoTL). He has published over 50 academic articles and book chapters, given over 120 conference presentations, authored over 150 articles for mass media outlets, co-edited The Science of Relationships: Answers To Your Questions about Dating, Marriage, And Family, and co-authored an innovative research methods textbook, Discovering the Scientist Within: Research Methods in Psychology. His work has been featured by the Washington Post, IFLScience.com, Daily Mail, Business Insider, Salon, The New Republic, Time, and Newsweek, and he has appeared in the New York Times, The Atlantic, VICE, CNN, and NPR, among others. He currently writes The Psychology of Relationships blog on Psychology Today, and his TED talk, Break-ups Don’t Have to Leave You Broken, has been viewed nearly 2 million times. He has also authored a trade book about relationships with Little Brown & Company, Stronger Than You Think: The 10 Blind Spots That Undermine Your Relationship…and How to See Past Them
Ph.D., Stony Brook University
M.A., Stony Brook University
B.A., Millersville University of Pennsylvania
Lewandowski’s primary research focuses on the role of self in romantic relationships including such processes as: attraction, relationship initiation, relationship maintenance, infidelity, and break-up. His other research focuses on improving the pedagogy of teaching research methods and statistics.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2021). Stronger than you think: The 10 blind spots that undermine your relationship…and how to see past them. Little Brown: Spark.
Mattingly, B. A., & McIntyre, K. P., & Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (Eds.) (2020). Interpersonal relationships and self-concept change. Springer Publishers.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., Ciarocco, N., & Strohmetz, D. B. (2019). Discovering the scientist within: Research methods in psychology (2nd Edition). Worth Publishers.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., Loving, T., Le, B., & Gleason, M. (Eds.) (2011). The science of relationships: Answers to your questions about dating, marriage, and family. Dubuque, IA: Kendall Hunt.
Hughes, E. K.*, Lewandowski, G.W. Jr., & Slotter, E. B. (2020). Expanding who I am: Validating the Preferences for Self-Expansion Scale. Journal of Personality Assessment, 102, 792-803. DOI: 10.1080/00223891.2019.1641109
Tomlinson, J. K., Hughes, E. K.*, Lewandowski, G.W. Jr., Aron, A. P., & Geyer, R. (2019). Do shared self-expanding activities have to be physically arousing? Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 36, 2781-2801. https://doi.org/10.1177/0265407518801095
Lewandowski, G.W. Jr. (2018). My watch has ended: A department chair’s exit interview. The Department Chair, 29, 9-11. https://doi.org/10.1002/dch.30217
Dwiggins, J.* & Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2015) Does hard work pay off? The influence of perceived effort on romantic attraction. Interpersona: An International Journal on Personal Relationships, 9, 184-199 . doi:10.5964/ijpr.v9i2.174
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., Mattingly, B. A., & Pedreiro, A.* (2014). Under pressure: The effects of stress on positive and negative relationship behaviors. Journal of Social Psychology, 154, 463-473. doi: 10.1080/00224545.2014.933162
Mattingly, B. A., & Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2014). Expanding the self brick by brick: Non-relational self-expansion and self-concept size. Social Psychological and Personality Science, 5, 483 – 489. doi: 10.1177/1948550613503886.
Mattingly, B. A., & Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2013). An expanded self is a more capable self: The association between self-concept size and self-efficacy. Self and Identity, 12,621-634. doi:10.1080/15298868.2012.71886
Mattingly, B. A., & Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2013). The power of one: Benefits of individual self-expansion. Journal of Positive Psychology, 8, 12-22.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., Ciarocco, N., Pettenato, M.* & Stephan, J.* (2012). Pick me up: Ego depletion and receptivity to relationship initiation. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 29, 1071-1084.
VanderDrift, L. E., Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., & Agnew, C. R. (2011). Reduced self-expansion in current romance and interest in relationship alternatives. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 28, 356-373. doi: 10.1177/0265407510382321
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., Nardone, N.,* & Raines, A. J.* (2010). The role of self-concept clarity in relationship quality. Self and Identity, 9, 416-433. doi: 10.1080/152988609033321
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., Aron, A., & Gee, J. (2007). Personality goes a long way: The malleability of opposite-sex physical attractiveness. Personal Relationships, 14(4), 571-585. doi:10.1111/j.1475-6811.2007.00172.x
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., & Bizzoco, N.* (2007). Addition through subtraction: Growth following the dissolution of a low quality relationship. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 2(1), 40-54. doi:10.1080/17439760601069234
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2020). The 15 Questions to Check if Your Relationship Will Work, According to Experts. Yahoo News.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., (February 2019) Valentine’s Day 2019: Should I stay with my partner? Newsweek.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2018, May). Why are we meeting like this? The 10 worst types of meetings in academe. InsideHigherEd.com.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2017, February). Path to true love may start with your BFF. CNN.com
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2016, April). It’s not all tears and loneliness: The positive side of breaking up. The Washington Post.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2016, February). How to choose a valentine, according to science. Time.com.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2015, November). Wedding bells or single again: Psychology predicts where your relationship is headed. IFLScience.com.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2015, June). The psychology of flirtation: How to know when someone’s interested. The Independent
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2015, January). The biology of cheating. Refinery29.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2014, December). How to spot a cheater. Business Insider.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2014, October). This is the best way to flirt if you want to score a date. The Washington Post.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2018). Relationships 101: From Hook-Ups to Heartbreak. Invited talk at The New Jersey Council for the Social Studies.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr., Strohmetz, D. B., & Ciarocco, N. J. (January, 2017). Research 2.0: Reimagining your methods course. Invited talk at the 18 th Annual Society for Personality and Social Psychology Teaching Preconference in San Antonio, TX.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2016, January). Maintaining research productivity while being an excellent teacher. Invited roundtable discussion presented at the Society for Personality and Social Psychology (SPSP) Conference, San Diego, CA.
Lewandowski, G. W., Jr. (2015, April). TED Talk: Break-ups Don’t Have To Leave You Broken. Talk given at the TEDx: Accelerators Conference. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cw2qD87KDHc
- American Psychological Society (APS)
- Eastern Psychological Association (EPA)
- International Association for Relationship Research (IARR)
- Society of Experimental Social Psychology (SESP)
- Society for Personality and Social Psychology (SPSP)
- Society for the Teaching of Psychology (STP)
- 2016 Teacher/Scholar Travel Award from the Society for Personality and Social Psychology (SPSP)
- Winner of the 2013 Association of American Medical Colleges (AAMC) Award for Outstanding Instruction in Pre-health Competencies: Psychology
- Winner of the Society for Personality and Social Psychology (SPSP) Media Prize as Co-Founder & Administrator for www.ScienceOfRelatonships.com (2012)
- Monmouth University Distinguished Teacher Award (2012)
- Princeton Review’s The Best 300 Professors (2012)
- New Jersey Psychological Association (NJPA) – Emerging Researcher Award (2011)
Frequently Taught Classes
Recently Taught Classes
- PY-360L-01 - Intimate Relationships Thesis Laboratory
- PY-311-02 - Research II: Behavioral Statistics and Laboratory
- PY-491-03 - Research IV: Thesis in Psychology
- HO-396-GLEW2 - Honors Thesis/Capstone Proposal
- PY-360L-01 - Intimate Relationships Thesis Laboratory
- PY-311-01 - Research II: Behavioral Statistics and Laboratory
- PY-491-01 - Research IV: Thesis in Psychology
LISTEN: Professor Lewandowski on “Save the Date” Podcast
Feb 22, 2021
Lewandowski: Is Your Valentine “The One”?
Feb 10, 2021
Professor Lewandowski: Seven Resolutions for a Stronger Relationship in the New Year
Jan 13, 2021
Professor Lewandowski: “Should You Break Up With Your Partner?”
Dec 1, 2020
Professor Lewandowski on ‘The Science of Flirting’
Oct 19, 2020