{"id":17707,"date":"2023-07-05T14:54:07","date_gmt":"2023-07-05T18:54:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/?p=17707"},"modified":"2025-07-31T10:22:45","modified_gmt":"2025-07-31T14:22:45","slug":"how-to-get-unstuck-in-your-life-and-career","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/how-to-get-unstuck-in-your-life-and-career\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Get Unstuck in Your Life and Career"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Life and career coach Bailey Frumen ’06, ’07M, LCSW, says one of the main reasons clients seek her out is they feel “stuck.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A trained psychotherapist, speaker, and author of Own Your Power: Your Guide to Feeling Powerful, Fearless & Free<\/em>, Frumen has more than a decade of experience helping people \u201creconnect with who they are\u201d so they can restore balance between their careers and the quality of life they seek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

She shared three steps anyone can take to get \u201cunstuck\u201d in their life, career, or anywhere else.<\/p>\n\n\n

Figure out what’s getting in your way <\/h3>\n\n\n

Start by taking an inventory of life\u2019s six key areas: career, mental and emotional well-being, physical health, finances, relationships, and spirituality. Think about each area objectively and without judgment, and rate how you\u2019re doing with each on a scale of one to 10. \u201cTo achieve anything, you have to zoom out and take an inventory of where things are right now,\u201d says Frumen. \u201cIf you don\u2019t get clear on what\u2019s holding you back, it\u2019s going to show up over and over.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

Manage your expectations <\/h3>\n\n\n

Once you determine which areas need the most work, figure out what steps you can take to improve. \u201cThe size of the gap between where you are and where you want to be will reveal how much work you have to do,\u201d says Frumen. If the gap is big\u2014say, for example, you get winded walking to the mailbox but your goal is to run a 5K\u2014a realistic timeline and bite-sized goals are critical for long-term success. \u201cThis is where a coach can help you define the results you want and figure out the steps you need to take to get there.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

Be cognizant of your narrative <\/h3>\n\n\n

\u201cOur words dictate our feelings, which dictate our actions,\u201d says Frumen, adding that this self-talk cycle is the same for everyone regardless of age, gender, or socioeconomic status. \u201cYou\u2019re never going to feel great and take positive action if you\u2019re speaking negatively to yourself all the time,\u201d she says. \u201cIf your narrative is negative, your feelings will be negative, and you\u2019ll choose actions based on those negative feelings. We\u2019re always telling a story. What is the story you\u2019re telling yourself?\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Three tips from Bailey Frumen, CEO and founder of Mindrise.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":57,"featured_media":17251,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"image_focus":"{\"x\":58,\"y\":29}","hide_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[81],"class_list":["post-17707","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-the-back","tag-alumni-profile"],"thumbnail":"\"\"","catString":"The Back","issue":"Spring\/Summer 2023","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17707","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/57"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17707"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17707\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21401,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17707\/revisions\/21401"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17251"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17707"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17707"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17707"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}