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Feeling stuck at work? You\u2019re not alone. According to a recent Gallup poll<\/a>, 60 percent of people report being detached at work, 50 percent are stressed, and 19 percent go so far as to say they\u2019re actually miserable. If you ask life and career coach Bailey Frumen ’06, ’07M, LCSW, feeling discontent at work is hardly unusual, even among successful go-getters. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSo many people are burnt crispy at work, feeling stuck, and need the tools to get off the merry-go-round and reconnect with who they are,\u201d says Frumen, who is the author of Own Your Power: Your Guide to Feeling Powerful, Fearless, and Free<\/em>, the host of two podcasts, a sought-after speaker, and one of Leadership Psychology\u2019s Top 20 Life Coaches. \u201cPeople shouldn\u2019t have to decide between either having a successful career or having a good quality of life.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Frumen speaks from experience. Trained as a psychotherapist, she realized that her favorite kind of clients were the high-achieving, ambitious, and driven ones, who also had a tendency to get in their own way when it comes to realizing their goals. That’s why 10 years ago she transformed her practice from general counseling to career and life coaching, and took her services remote. She now runs a successful business and has clients all over the world. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWhat these clients needed was a clear roadmap, rather than getting stuck on all the things they had to do on a daily basis,\u201d Frumen says. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

As the CEO and founder of Mindrise, Frumen offers one-on-one coaching, annual retreats (destinations have included Greece, Puerto Rico, Portugal, and more), a six-month coaching certificate program, and monthly support groups called Masterminds. Curated by Frumen, these groups are designed to offer a six-month, peer-driven deep dive into goal setting, motivation, accountability, and vulnerability, though members tend to make meaningful long-term connections.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the midst of all this, Frumen says the education she received at Monmouth University\u2019s School of Social Work remains her north star. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThey taught me everything I live by and, most especially, the Social Work Code of Ethics, which first and foremost emphasizes the right to self determination,\u201d she says. \u201cMy whole business was founded on that concept, and lives and breathes it on a daily basis\u2014the idea that people have the right to make the choices they do in life, and that it\u2019s not my responsibility to tell them what to do but rather show up and support them.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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How to Get Unstuck<\/h2>\n\n\n

According to Frumen, feeling \u201cstuck\u201d is one of the main reasons her clients seek out career and life coaching. Here are her top tips for getting started on the road to positive change\u2014at work, at home, or anywhere else.<\/p>\n\n\n

Figure out what’s getting in your way<\/h3>\n\n\n

Start by taking an inventory of life\u2019s six key areas: career, mental and emotional well-being, physical health, finances, relationships, and spirituality. Think about each area objectively and without judgment, and rate how you\u2019re doing with each on a scale of one to 10. \u201cTo achieve anything, you have to zoom out and take an inventory of where things are right now,\u201d says Frumen. \u201cIf you don\u2019t get clear on what\u2019s holding you back, it\u2019s going to show up over and over.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

Manage your expectations<\/h3>\n\n\n

Once you determine which areas need the most work, figure out what steps you can take to improve. \u201cThe size of the gap between where you are and where you want to be will reveal how much work you have to do,\u201d says Frumen. If the gap is big\u2014say, for example, you get winded walking to the mailbox but your goal is to run a 5K\u2014a realistic timeline and bite-sized goals are critical for long-term success. \u201cThis is where a coach can help you define the results you want and figure out the steps you need to take to get there.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n

Be cognizant of your narrative<\/h3>\n\n\n

\u201cOur words dictate our feelings, which dictate our actions,\u201d says Frumen, adding that this self-talk cycle is the same for everyone regardless of age, gender, or socioeconomic status. \u201cYou\u2019re never going to feel great and take positive action if you\u2019re speaking negatively to yourself all the time,\u201d she says. \u201cIf your narrative is negative, your feelings will be negative, and you\u2019ll choose actions based on those negative feelings. We\u2019re always telling a story. What is the story you\u2019re telling yourself?\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Life and career coach Bailey Frumen has dedicated her life to helping others find meaning and fulfillment in their lives.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":57,"featured_media":17224,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"image_focus":"{\"x\":50,\"y\":33}","hide_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-17220","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-the-back"],"thumbnail":"\"\"","catString":"The Back","issue":"Spring\/Summer 2023","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17220","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/57"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=17220"}],"version-history":[{"count":17,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17220\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":21399,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/17220\/revisions\/21399"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/17224"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=17220"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=17220"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=17220"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}