Describe your book in three sentences or less. <\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n In relationships, it\u2019s easy to know what you want, but hard to know what you have. Worse, you\u2019re likely not giving your relationship enough credit. Learn research-based remedies to counteract the blind spots that are holding you back, so you can see how your relationship is stronger than you think. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n What is the most surprising thing you learned while doing research for your book?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n You\u2019d think that when things are going well and people are having few problems, they\u2019d simply enjoy it. Yet, one study found that where they weren\u2019t experiencing any big problems, individuals took small problems and inflated them. Doing this in your relationship makes you think it\u2019s worse than it is and encourages unnecessary doubts. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n What inspired you to write this book?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n There may not be anything more important in our lives than our relationships, yet we too often leave our relationships to fate. Relationship science has so much to offer, yet it is hard to find outside of academic journals. People love learning about relationships, so making that research accessible will open readers\u2019 eyes to a lot of what they\u2019ve been missing. When people have better data, they can make better decisions, which can only help their relationships. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n Best relationship advice you ever received?<\/strong> And who was it from?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n She didn\u2019t necessarily mean it as relationship advice, but my mom often said, \u201cBeing smart is knowing what you don\u2019t know.\u201d It\u2019s a reminder that experience isn\u2019t the same as expertise, and that overconfidence in the wrong information is a relationship killer. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n What is the most common relationship question you get?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n \u201cAm I in a good relationship?\u201d or a version of that where the questioner wonders if an aspect of their relationship is a good sign, or something they should worry about.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n Best date you\u2019ve ever been on?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n On my wife\u2019s birthday we went to a taping of The View<\/em> in New York City, followed by lunch at a small Italian place. Afterward we went on a horse and carriage ride in Central Park, where I proposed. Since she said \u201cyes.\u201d It easily qualifies as the best date.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n Who is your favorite author?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n Michael Crichton. I loved how he was able to weave complicated science concepts into captivating stories. Plus, dinosaurs are cool.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n What book are you currently reading?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n How to Be an Antiracist<\/em> by Ibram X. Kendi.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n What book changed your life?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n Tuesdays with Morrie<\/em>. I read it before every semester to remind me of what\u2019s truly important when I\u2019m teaching: helping others live a better, more meaningful life. <\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n Do you have any secret talents?<\/strong><\/p>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n If I do, they\u2019re so secret that I don\u2019t even know about them.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n\n\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" The award-winning professor and relationship expert\u2019s new book reveals blind spots that can sabotage a relationship.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":60,"featured_media":12826,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"image_focus":"{\"x\":39,\"y\":32}","hide_title":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12764","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-currents"],"thumbnail":"![\"\"](\"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/magazine\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/7\/2021\/02\/9780316454704-3.jpg\")
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