{"id":40802221163,"date":"2026-05-12T13:31:40","date_gmt":"2026-05-12T17:31:40","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/counseling\/?page_id=40802221163"},"modified":"2026-05-19T14:28:14","modified_gmt":"2026-05-19T18:28:14","slug":"helping-a-hawk","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/www.monmouth.edu\/counseling\/helping-a-hawk\/","title":{"rendered":"Helping a Hawk"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<h2 id=\"how-to-support-a-monmouth-student-in-distress\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Support a Monmouth Student in Distress<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Monmouth Hawks fly together, and we look out for one another. If you notice a friend, classmate, roommate, or another Hawk struggling emotionally, academically, or socially, your support can make a meaningful difference. Please do not feel that you need to &#8220;fix&#8221; a situation\u2014simply show care, listen, and help them connect to the right resources. <\/p>\n\n\n<h2 class=\"simpletoc-title\">Table of Contents<\/h2>\n<ul class=\"simpletoc-list\">\n<li><a href=\"#how-to-support-a-monmouth-student-in-distress\">How to Support a Monmouth Student in Distress<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#recognizing-signs-a-friend-may-need-help\">Recognizing Signs a Friend May Need Help<\/a>\n\n\n<ul><li>\n<a href=\"#emotional-or-behavioral-changes\">Emotional or Behavioral Changes<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#academic-or-lifestyle-changes\">Academic or Lifestyle Changes<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#safety-concerns\">Safety Concerns<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<li><a href=\"#how-to-start-the-conversation\">How to Start the Conversation<\/a>\n\n\n<ul><li>\n<a href=\"#try-using-statements-like-these\">Try Using Statements Like These<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#tips-for-the-conversation\">Tips for the Conversation<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#if-your-friend-is-in-immediate-danger\">If Your Friend Is in Immediate Danger<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<li><a href=\"#encouraging-your-friend-to-seek-support\">Encouraging Your Friend to Seek Support<\/a>\n\n\n<ul><li>\n<a href=\"#ways-to-help\">Ways to Help<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#setting-boundaries-and-taking-care-of-yourself\">Setting Boundaries and Taking Care of Yourself<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<li><a href=\"#when-to-consult-cps-even-if-your-friend-wont-go\">When to Consult CPS (Even If Your Friend Won\u2019t Go)<\/a>\n\n<\/li>\n<li><a href=\"#final-reminder\">Final Reminder<\/a>\n<\/li><\/ul>\n\n<div><span id=\"expander-40802221163\"><\/span><\/div>\n\n\n<div style=\"height:2rem\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"recognizing-signs-a-friend-may-need-help\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Recognizing Signs a Friend May Need Help<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"emotional-or-behavioral-changes\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Emotional or Behavioral Changes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Withdrawal from friends, classes, or clubs<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Extreme irritability, sadness, or mood swings<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Expressions of hopelessness or feeling like a burden<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Increased worry, stress, or panic<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"academic-or-lifestyle-changes\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Academic or Lifestyle Changes<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Missing classes or falling behind in coursework<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Dramatic changes in sleep, energy, or appetite<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Noticeable decline in self-care or hygiene<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"safety-concerns\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Safety Concerns<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Talking about wanting to die, disappear, or harm themselves<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Engaging in risky or impulsive behavior<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Excessive substance use<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Experiencing or disclosing trauma or abuse<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:16px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"how-to-start-the-conversation\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">How to Start the Conversation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"try-using-statements-like-these\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Try Using Statements Like These<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>\u201cI\u2019ve noticed some recent changes. Are you okay?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cYou\u2019ve been on my mind. I care about you and want to check in.\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cYou seem overwhelmed\u2014how can I support you right now?\u201d<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u201cI\u2019m here for you. You don\u2019t have to go through this alone.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"tips-for-the-conversation\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Tips for the Conversation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Choose a private, distraction-free space.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Speak from a place of care, not judgment.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Listen more than you talk.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Avoid trying to \u201csolve\u201d their problems.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Validate their feelings.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"if-your-friend-is-in-immediate-danger\" class=\"wp-block-heading\"><strong>If Your Friend Is in Immediate Danger<\/strong><\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Call MUPD 24\/7 at <a href=\"tel:+17325714444\">732-571-4444<\/a>.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:16px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"encouraging-your-friend-to-seek-support\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Encouraging Your Friend to Seek Support<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"ways-to-help\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Ways to Help<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Offer to explore CPS services with them.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sit with them while they make a call.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Walk them to CPS (Student Center, 3rd Floor).<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Suggest Uwill\u2019s 24\/7 support line (<a href=\"tel:+18336461526\">833-646-1526<\/a>).<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<h3 id=\"setting-boundaries-and-taking-care-of-yourself\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Setting Boundaries and Taking Care of Yourself<\/h3>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Know your limits.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Do not promise secrecy if someone is unsafe.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Take breaks as needed.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Reach out to CPS for guidance.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:16px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"when-to-consult-cps-even-if-your-friend-wont-go\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">When to Consult CPS (Even If Your Friend Won\u2019t Go)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>CPS counselors are available to help you strategize. Call <a href=\"tel:+17325717517\">732-571-7517<\/a> during office hours.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Additional Resources:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>MUPD: <a href=\"tel:+17325714444\">732-571-4444<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>988 Suicide &amp; Crisis Lifeline<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Crisis Text Line: Text START to 741-741<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Uwill 24\/7\/365: <a href=\"tel:+18336461526\">833-646-1526<\/a><\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>180 Turning Lives Around: <a href=\"tel:+17322644111\">732-264-4111<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:16px\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n\n\n\n<h2 id=\"final-reminder\" class=\"wp-block-heading\">Final Reminder<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>You are not alone in helping a friend\u2014and neither are they. Monmouth University has a community of support ready to help Hawks take care of one another.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div style=\"height:2rem\" aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"wp-block-spacer\"><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How to Support a Monmouth Student in Distress Monmouth Hawks fly together, and we look out for one another. If you notice a friend, classmate, roommate, or another Hawk struggling emotionally, academically, or socially, your support can make a meaningful difference. 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